KNOWN OR UNKNOWN: Source :reading-body-language.co.uk

• If you already know someone …

• If it’s a stranger …

TIME AND PLACE

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT? (THE TURN ON)

	1	Tall rather than short (or at least taller than the woman)
	2	Dark haired rather than blonde
	3	Handsome rather than plain
	4	Masculine but clean (hygiene is important to woman)
	5	A little rough and dangerous but safe and gentle – with them
	6	Risk takers until they’re married and / or have children
	7	Flat stomach - small butt
	8	Broad shoulders - narrow waist
	9	Wealthy or have future wealth potential
	10	Leaders rather than followers
	11	Able to make them feel good even if it means lying (convincingly)
	12	Confident and relaxed
	13	Popular with others but focused on them – the woman
	14	Physically fit but not so it dominates their lives
	15	Intelligent enough to understand them but definitely not a nerd
	16	A little wild but tamable
	17	Adventurous in their past and present but only adventurous with her in the future
	18	Unpredictable – for a while
	19	Experienced with sex but prepared to give up other women for them
	20	Good listeners
	21	Definitely not weird – unless being weird is the norm for the social group
	22	Able to dress with style and reasonable fashion but not a dandy
	23	Loving but not possessive and stifling.
	24	A sense that they're prepared to walk away – if they really feel like it
	25	Able to make them laugh!  (Hugely important)

WHAT WOMEN DON'T WANT! (THE TURN OFF)

	1	Has an very unpleasant or unusual body odour – Could be illness
	2	Has noticeable rashes or advanced skin disease of any sort – Illness and Disease
	3	Has distorted or imbalanced facial features – May imply genetic issues
	4	Sweats uncontrollably – It implies illness or anxiety therefore not an alpha
	5	Is “laughably” socially awkward –Implies ill adjustment
	6	Is noticeably feminine – Could be secretly gay?
	7	Is fat – a butt the size of two pigs in a sack - No self control / physical weakness
	8	Has bad teeth / breathe – Not kissing a dirty drain.
	9	Is really, as opposed to just interestingly, weird. I.e. He collects frog spawn as a hobby and believes it could be tomorrow’s wonder-food. – Unbalanced!
	10	Is too old or just looks too old – No kids there.
	11	Comes across as desperate - Loser.
	12	Over 25 and lives with his mother – Let’s not go there!

THE RIGHT ATTITUDE

OBSERVATION AND SELECTION

• Generally the female Signals and the Male Responds (Only true Alphas should broadcast first)

SUAVE & SEXY		JUST FLIRT		MAKE HER LAUGH

HOW TO BE THE CHOSEN ONE (Key Flirting Tips for Men)

	1	Stand tall – don’t slouch
	2	Keep your shoulders back
	3	Keep your chin up
	4	Suck in the stomach (but not obviously so)
	5	Casually look around – scan but don’t stare
	6	Make eye contact with women (very important)
	7	Position yourself at the centre of the action – you’re an Alpha Male
	8	Move casually and confidently
	9	Lead don’t follow
	10	Don’t cross your arms (unless its freezing cold)
	11	Send out flirting response signals - or even initiate a few of your own
	12	Show off your physique – if it’s good.
	13	Be groomed in a very, very, casual way
	14	Laugh and make people around you laugh with you not at you
	15	Display wealth – appear wealthy
	16	Never tuck both hands into your pockets (unless it's freezing)

 

THE HAIR PREEN Women with long hair often twirl or play with it out of habit but It's also a sign of nervous or playful arousal. It's used to attract a man's attention or to show him that his masculinity is attractive to her. This signal is sometimes confused with hair tugging which actually indicates the opposite - intense discomfort and a desire to be somewhere else. In this case the hair is "jerked" and forcibly pulled. When a woman preens her hair the motions are slower and luxurious. The hair is stroked and twirled in a sensual fashion.

		THE CLOSER LOOK
		This is a very obvious female sex signal and translated means - "You're worth a closer look and I want you to know I'm looking." In the image to the left the woman has also opened her mouth with a hint of the "I'm ready to be kissed / You've taken my breath away" gesture. This is a fairly common signal at daytime parties or by the poolside where more subtle signals may well be missed. It works best with sunglasses that actually make things harder to see but can work with ordinary reading glasses. Her hand movement attracts the man's attention.

THE GLAMOUR POSE Arching her back to emphasise her bottom and flexibility (youth), pushing her breasts forward and playing with her luxurious hair, the model to the right is exaggerating normally subtle signals into large movements and dramatic sexual gestures. This is most often used by a woman where the male target is a fair distance away or where she wants absolutely no doubt about what is on her mind. Exaggerated body language is often seen at large gatherings or public spaces like a beach were simple "quieter" signals are often unnoticed.

		THE LIP LICK
		As a sex signal this is pure dynamite an one to which men often overreact Woman lick their lips for two reasons - they're either dry or she's sexually interested. Let’s skip the psycho-babble about moist genitals and clitoral stimulation and go to the facts. If a woman places her tongue at the corner of her mouth and then sensually licks her upper lip she consciously or subconsciously wants you to know she's getting very interested. It doesn't mean she wants the man to launch himself over the table and onto her but it does mean "don't be a dummy - even you can't miss this."

I'M WIDE OPEN Context is an important consideration when both using and evaluating this signal. Many women would never consider sitting in this way if they were wearing a dress. From childhood females are taught that the correct way to sit is with their legs together so one must assume that the decision to sit with legs apart is a strong and sexually aggressive signal. However, if she's just been on a five mile hike it may well be more about comfort than sexuality. It is believed to indicate that a woman is opening her legs to indicate willing.

		MY LOVELY ASS
		The female bottom, both amongst primates and humans, holds a fierce attraction for males. Buttock augmentation is rapidly becoming common cosmetic surgery particularly in countries where a curvy bottom is considered a woman's sexiest attribute (Brazil for example). This signal is done by placing one hand on the hip to pull the fabric taught across her cheeks and then half turning away so that the man can appreciate the shape and beauty of her bottom. One hand is often placed on her stomach to make it less obvious that she is also arching her back to make her bottom more prominent.

PARTED LIPS / READY TO KISS The chin is lifted and the lips parted as if ready to be kissed. This is a serious sex signal and not one that is used casually for flirting. This is often the final signal in a progression indicating that physical contact can now take place. Some psychologists claim that by parting the lips of her mouth a woman is suggesting that she is ready to part the lips of her vagina. While at first this may sound dubious, it is interesting to note that very many women seeking a sexual partner choose lipstick that is extremely close to the colour of their labia or nipples. Coincidence?

		SEXY BLUSHING
		There are basically two types of blushing. There's the “Sexy Blush” and the “Embarrassed Blush”. They both happen because an emotional state triggers blood vessels to dilate and the cheeks are where it is most obvious. "Women draw attention to themselves by tossing or playing with their hair, tilting their heads, raising their eyebrows, giggling, or blushing." (Encyclopedia of psychology - Alan E. Kazdin). The cosmetics industry has understood this signal since Egyptian times and one of the consistently best selling make-up items is cheek rouge or "blusher"

THE AIR KISS / PURSED LIPS Some women have naturally "sculptured" lips and are often seen as both beautiful and desirable by the men that they meet. By pursing her lips in the way shown above a woman is essentially kissing the air. When making this gesture to a man it is both conscious and unmistakable. This is a gesture that can be made some woman and scorch the walls but done by others it just doesn’t work - particularly by those woman that have over-plumped up their lips with collagen. Some women have significantly more control over the tiny muscles of the lips than others and for these women this is "the" sex signal.

		DILATED PUPILS (BELLA DONA)
		When shown pictures of the same people that either had the pupils of their eyes airbrushed larger or smaller, almost all people tested indicated that they felt more attracted to the pictures with the larger pupils. Most importantly, they couldn’t explain why. The reason is that our pupils dilate when we’re feeling sexually aroused. Pupils also dilate when it's darker so perhaps that’s why candle light dinners are so romantic. English Tudors of the fifteenth century actually placed drops of deadly belladonna poison into their eyes to dilate their pupils and create the effect.

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Psychologists believe that when we were all living in much smaller communities or tribes and everyone knew everyone else, reputation naturally became everything. So, if you were known to be rejected by a person then your suitability rating was diminished. Equally, if you were accepted then your suitability rating increased. It's quite similar to how Google ranks web pages. A link from a quality web page improves your ranking while a link from a poor quality page reduces it. The danger of being visibly rejected is that it encourages others to reject you too. In this case it’s just another form of peer pressure. A particular woman might go through the following thought process: "If Janice rejected Mike maybe there's something wrong with him? Maybe I should reject him too just in case. Hell I don't want to be seen with Janice's reject anyway."
If you think this system no longer applies then just watch how people behave at parties or nightclubs. Subconsciously, men will only approach a woman if they feel that they have more than an eighty percent chance of being accepted.
This is where flirting and sex signals become important. In a sense they are a code used between humans to test the levels of mutual attraction before visibly acting and thus risking rejection. Where people are watching and a rejection is taking place, the person doing the rejecting often exaggerates the act so that the spectators are in no doubt as to who is the loser. Sometimes seen as cruel, this is actually a form of self protection. The person doing the rejection cannot afford the peer-group doubt that they themselves might have been rejected.

THE CLOSER LOOK

This is a very obvious female sex signal and translated means  - "You're worth a closer look and I want you to know I'm  looking." In the image to the left the woman has also opened  her mouth with a hint of the "I'm ready to be kissed / You've   taken my breath away" gesture. This is a fairly common  signal at daytime parties or by the poolside where more   subtle signals may well be missed. It works best with  sunglasses that actually make things harder to see but  can work with ordinary reading glasses. Her hand  movement attracts the man's attention.

THE GLAMOUR POSE Arching her back to emphasise her bottom and flexibility (youth), pushing her breasts forward and playing with her luxurious hair, the model to the right is exaggerating normally subtle signals into large movements and dramatic sexual gestures. This is most often used by a woman where the male target is a fair distance away or where she wants absolutely no doubt about what is on her mind. Exaggerated body language is often seen at large gatherings or public spaces like a beach were simple "quieter" signals are often unnoticed.

THE HAIR PREEN

Women with long hair often twirl or play with it out of habit but It's also a sign of nervous or playful arousal. It's used to attract a man's attention or to show him that his masculinity is attractive to her. This signal is sometimes confused with hair tugging which actually indicates the opposite - intense discomfort and a desire to be somewhere else. In this case the hair is "jerked" and forcibly pulled. When a woman preens her hair the motions are slower and luxurious. The hair is stroked and twirled in a sensual fashion.